Spiritual Warfare

Just wanted to share the following devotion from Warfare (Tony Evans, YouVersion Bible App). It is excellent information regarding spiritual warfare. The spiritual battle against the enemy most often takes place within our minds, however God has given us the tools to overcome and win that fight. 🙌🏻

In 2 Corinthians 10:4, Paul says our spiritual weapons can destroy Satan’s fortresses. Weapons such as prayer, reading the Word, obedience, meditation on Scripture, fasting, and service can blow up the devil’s strongholds. And that’s what we must do. These fortresses don’t need to be remodeled. God doesn’t tell us to capture them, change the locks, and use them for Him. Satan’s fortresses must be torn down. 

We also need to pull down those lofty partitions (v. 5). These include “speculations,” those rebel thoughts that take us far away from the knowledge of God. 

Friend, you are not responsible for every thought that flashes into your mind. Satan can plant thoughts in our minds. But you are responsible for what you do with them once they are there. Our job is to recognize and dismiss evil thoughts. That’s the idea behind Paul’s statement about “taking every thought captive to the obedience of Christ” (2 Cor. 10:5). This is war language. When the enemy sends us one of his thoughts, we need to grab that thought and take it hostage. 

When we can do this successfully day in and day out, we are going to start winning some serious spiritual battles. Whoever controls the mind controls the war. When you take those roaming thoughts captive, Satan loses his control over you. 

And while not all anxiety people struggle with is purely a spiritual matter, for some it is based on imbalanced chemicals in the body or rooted in past traumas which produce triggers, this approach toward overcoming anxious thoughts can help to reduce it. It may not remove it entirely if a person struggles with physical-based symptoms, but it can provide a way to manage it. But in order to do so, you have to take each thought captive to Christ. 

No army can afford to have enemy troops running around loose behind its lines, wreaking havoc and sabotaging its weapons and defenses. 

You may be thinking, Tony, this sounds too easy. If you have been a spiritual POW for very long, you may think Satan’s strongholds are too hard to conquer. You may think the battle is hopeless, the problems too great. But this is one reason we have so many problems. We make the Christian life harder than God makes it. Yes, there are difficult problems. I don’t want to minimize that. But many of the problems we’re facing are not as difficult as we make them, because we approach them with a defeatist attitude. 

What is the difference between a person God delivers in twenty-four hours and one who takes twenty-four years? In most cases, I believe the difference is in the mind. When the thinking changes, the actions change. And then the fortresses come down. 

Let me give you an example of how this works. Joshua and the army of Israel came to the city of Jericho, which was surrounded by a high wall (Joshua 6). It looked impregnable. It was a fortress. God told Israel to march around the city for six days and then march around it seven times on the seventh day. Then the priests were to blow the trumpets, the people were to shout, and the wall would fall down. 

Imagine Joshua saying, “Excuse me, Lord, but this is a war. These people are the enemy. They are strong. Would You please give me my military instructions?”

Joshua didn’t do that, of course. He obeyed God, and when the priests blew the trumpets and the people shouted, that wall crashed down instantly. The wall fell because the people tore it down God’s way. If they had used human methods, they would have been defeated.

This is the question we always face: Are we going to use human or divine methods? It saves a lot of time and grief to use God’s method. Trust God for your battle plans, obey His Word, take your thoughts captive under His authority – and you will win victory after victory in spiritual warfare. 

Your friend,

Tiffany

Transparency

“Honesty and transparency make you vulnerable. Be honest and transparent anyway.”

– Mother Teresa

Sometimes one of the greatest gifts we can give to another is to be transparent and honest. I try to be this way even though it is not always easy.  So today I am going to be transparent with the hope that it will be an encouragement.

We have been struggling lately to get our son’s medication regulated. His severe autism causes aggression, insomnia, hyperactivity, attention problems, and sensory issues to name a few of the big issues. We have tried all sorts of different medicines and combinations of medicines. We get things leveled out for a while and then problems arise. It is very difficult and most people don’t understand what our family goes through on a daily basis. I am not saying that to garner sympathy or because I’m having a pity party, it is simply a truthful fact. 

Today as I was counting out his medicine, I thought about how thankful I was that there is healing and hope because of the promise of Heaven through Jesus. I was also prompted to share the following (which I shared on Facebook earlier this week) with those who follow my blog:

Landon had a dentist appointment today. It was pretty tough. I won’t elaborate on that. The positive takeaway was the dentist said “we were doing an amazing job with his teeth despite all the challenges.” When I was checking out, the following sign at the checkout desk caught my eye. I really felt strongly it was for someone else, not just me. Peace in your heart is only found in Jesus.

For this light momentary affliction is preparing for us an eternal weight of glory beyond all comparison, as we look not to the things that are seen but to the things that are unseen. For the things that are seen are transient, but the things that are unseen are eternal.

~2 Corinthians 4:17-18

Whatever you may be facing today, remember that there is an end in sight. The difficulty/trial/trouble/storm does have an end because everything here on this earth is transient (lasting for a short time, impermanent.) Those things we cannot see or sometimes even fathom are eternal. And the eternal aspects of Heaven are wonderful and perfect, free from medication, autism, trouble, and difficulty. 

If you are struggling today, hold the promise of Heaven in your heart.  Think on Heaven’s pureness and loveliness. Think on the wonderful complexity, yet simplicity of that promise God has given to His children. If you don’t know Jesus, seek Him today. Ask Him to reveal Himself to you. To know Him is to have the promise of Heaven and hope in your heart despite the difficulties in this life. The best is yet to come. If you are struggling and overwhelmed today, I am praying for God to lighten your heart and mind with His hope and promise to you.

Finally, brothers and sisters, whatever is true, whatever is noble, whatever is right, whatever is pure, whatever is lovely, whatever is admirable—if anything is excellent or praiseworthy—think about such things.

Your friend,

Tiffany

Goldendoodles and God’s Love

Whoever has my commandments and keeps them, he it is who loves me. And he who loves me will be loved by my Father, and I will love him and manifest myself to him.

John 14:21

But when the kindness and love of God our Savior appeared, he saved us, not because of righteous things we had done, but because of his mercy. He saved us through the washing of rebirth and renewal by the Holy Spirit

Titus 3:4-5

Yesterday morning was beautiful and sunny so I decided to take a walk. Landon has had way more bad days than good lately and honestly the weight of that burden gets pretty heavy. His aggression is increasing at school towards his teachers and classmates. So I daily email and check in with his teacher, doctor, etc. to apologize for the behavior, to work on improving the behavior with medicine increases/decreases/different medicines. We try different techniques to help him, but nothing ends up working much or for very long. It is a very helpless and hopeless feeling to work with someone with severe autism for years. You know you are stuck on the roller coaster of autism and you can never get off. You are forever working, trying, praying, and crying. 

Anyway, like I was saying,  I decided to take a walk yesterday morning. I was walking down the sidewalk, talking on the phone to my Mom actually, and in the distance I could see a woman walking a dog and they were headed in my direction. As they got closer, I could see that the dog was a goldendoodle. 

If you aren’t familiar with this breed, it is a cross between a standard poodle and a golden retriever. To me, this breed is absolutely amazing. Nearly every time I see one of these dogs, I feel this immediate connection with them. I know some may roll their eyes and say whatever, that sounds cheesy and silly, but I’ve personally experienced it more than once. I’ve seen at least three of these dogs in person and every single time, when they look at me with those awesome loving, intelligent eyes, there is a connection. It’s as if they understand me somehow and love me and want to be near me. Yes, this happens to be one of my favorite breeds. 😊 I don’t own one, but maybe some day I will. 

So I’m talking to my mom and I tell her this lady is approaching with a goldendoodle. The dog and the the lady get closer and as they do, the dog starts wagging his tail and tries to come over to me. I greet the lady and tell her what a beautiful dog she has and as we pass the dog looks at me with those loving and knowing eyes and reaches out to lick my fingers. It was such a sweet moment. I kept walking and didn’t think much about it until later in the evening.

The day goes on, Landon gets home from school and I check his backpack. Another horrible day. He’s hitting and scratching himself and other people. If you know me well, you know I’m a pretty gentle, loving person. If anything, I love to a fault. Landon’s behavior is not the result of being in any kind of bad environment. Landon’s behavior is a result of his autism. And I’m helpless to change it. I cannot love the autism away. All the love I have to give and do give is not enough to change his autism. Landon’s autism is a forever reminder that this earth is not our home. 

So after reading all the bad reports and holding my head in my hands for awhile, I email the doctor, email the teacher, etc. to apologize, to work on medicine changes, to reassure that I’m working to “fix” or “improve” that which, aside from a miracle, is unfixable.

Side note, Murry took Landon to Robbie’s soccer practice Wednesday and so I got over an hour break to exercise and play the piano. It was wonderful and I thanked Murry profusely for making that sacrifice and taking Landon off my hands for a while. Self-care is important if you’re a full-time caregiver. 

Back to yesterday. After emailing, texting, apologizing, and crying, and after Landon was in bed, I went to take a long bath and pray. I told God “look I don’t know what to do. I can’t fix the autism. I can’t make him better.” Right away the image of the goldendoodle came back to mind along with a gentle reminder from God. 

The Lord reminded me that He loves Landon not because of his performance or how good he is…but because Landon exists, because he is an image bearer of God. When Landon misbehaves, Jesus doesn’t love him less. When he has good days, Jesus doesn’t love him more. God reminded me that He loves me completely, too, just because I exist. That love doesn’t change based on my actions or circumstances or how good I am or if I’m having a bad day. It is unwavering, steady, unchanging and abundantly overflowing.

We humans love people with conditions. If you think you don’t, ask yourself why you love your significant other? Is it because they do something for you? Do they provide financially? Do they give you affection, time, encouragement? If they didn’t do anything for you, would you still love them? Do you get upset with them if they don’t do what you expect? What about your friends? Do you love them based on their performance? Whether they make time for you or not? When you are honest with yourself and become aware of this, it might surprise you to learn that you sometimes love with conditions, too. 

I’m not saying we should beat ourselves up over this, but just to be aware of our humanity, and to ultimately realize God doesn’t love us like that! He loves us with no conditions. He simply loves us just because we are His children. His love won’t ever fluctuate. He just delights to have us near, no matter what kind of day we are having. His eyes meet ours with warmth and love and joy when He sees us. And when we see Him and look into His eyes we feel an amazing connection. We are understood and loved. We can just “be” in His presence and He is delighted with that.

My goldendoodle friend was a glimpse of that unconditional love today. Of course a dog’s love cannot compare with the love of Jesus, but the tangible reminder was what my heart needed. Maybe today you need that reminder too. You are totally loved just because you “are”. His love isn’t performance based or conditional. Rest in that today. Accept His unconditional love for you.

The LORD appeared to us in the past, saying: “I have loved you with an everlasting love; I have drawn you with unfailing kindness.

Jeremiah 31:3

The LORD your God is in your midst,

    a mighty one who will save;

  he will rejoice over you with gladness;

    he will quiet you by his love;

  he will exult over you with loud singing.

Zephaniah 3:17

And now these three remain: faith, hope and love. But the greatest of these is love.

1 Corinthians 13:13


Your friend,

Tiffany

Some Random Observations

  1. The Keto diet really works…if you stay on it. 😂 (I’ve lost over 5 pounds in 3 days. 🙌🏻)
  2. Don’t give your autistic child Abilify. It is a horrible, horrible medicine. It caused awful aggression which is what it was supposed to treat!
  3. If you step on the scale, and it looks like you’ve lost 8 pounds in one day, don’t get excited. More than likely the scale is broken. I’m not saying you broke it because you’re overweight or anything , but I’m not convinced that isn’t what happened with mine. 🤣😂😬 #losingweight #ketoworks

Stay tuned for more observations from a mom who is clearly on a roller coaster ride provided by autism. Have a blessed day!

Your friend,

Tiffany

Five Benefits of Praise

Often praise can change our situation, but even if it doesn’t, it always changes us for the better.

Life can be so difficult, but it to me it is almost part of self-care to take the time to be thankful and praise God for all the blessings/positive aspects of life. We all struggle and have to face hard things, but intentionally taking the time to be thankful will truly benefit us. I know it’s a choice, and I know it’s hard sometimes. Every time I praise God for all He’s done and who He is, I never regret it. I believe you won’t regret it either.

Today I read the following excellent devotion from Flip or Flop: Changing Your Situation With Praise (YouVersion Bible App).  It was so good and I wanted to share it. I hope it encourages you as you read it.

FIVE BENEFITS OF PRAISE

1. Praising and giving thanks helps you to magnify God (see Ps. 34:3) and get your focus back on Him. Dwelling on your troubles makes you prisoner to them, but dwelling on God makes Him bigger than all the problems and pains.

2. Praising God keeps you humble. Praising and thanking God reminds you that you are dependent on Him—you’re not in this alone, you need Him (see Psalm 73:26).

3. When you’re humble, you get more grace (see James 4:6), and grace is God’s power beyond your ability, working to bring you through every trouble in your life.

4. Praising helps you to turn dark thoughts to thoughts of hope, when you think of all that you have to be thankful for, even the little things.

5. Praising stirs up your faith. When you praise and worship God, you’re reminded afresh that He is your provider, your healer, your help, your strength, and whatever else you need. It helps you to believe that He is working in your situation, just as He promised! Romans 8:28 says,  “And we know that all things work together for good to those who love God, to those who are the called according to His purpose.” Praising helps you know

Your friend,

Tiffany

Canvas and Clay

He has made everything beautiful in its time. He has also set eternity in the human heart; yet no one can fathom what God has done from beginning to end.

~Ecclesiastes 3:11

I have insomnia. It all started back when I had Landon and some health problems developed. That is a very long story. However, because I have insomnia, I try to purposefully use the time when I can’t sleep. Instead of lying in bed tossing and turning, I usually have my quiet time, write, pray, plan the day, etc. 

Tonight was one of those nights. Often, God brings songs or song lyrics to my mind. I don’t think it is a coincidence when certain songs replay in my thoughts. I believe there are times when God wants me to share the lyrics and the song.

Yesterday before our church service started which we all watched online (due to Covid), I  heard the song “Canvas and Clay” by Pat Barrett. I love music, especially worship music, as I shared in my last post. Anyway the song talks about God being the artist and the potter and how we are the canvas and the clay. 

My youngest child has autism and has difficulty with communicating. Sometimes certain songs capture his attention. Yesterday, this song “Canvas and Clay” caused him to stop what he was doing and listen momentarily. He even said a line from the song “not finished with me.” So I knew this song resonated in his spirit and soul and I definitely wanted to share this.

Whatever your circumstances are, ask God to be the artist and the potter in your life. He honestly wants nothing else more. He can take all the good and bad, even mistakes and failures, and turn it into the most amazing masterpiece! I read the following quote once:

 “Don’t think you’ve messed up too much or drifted too far in your life for God to use you. You are not that powerful my friend.” 

This quote is so true. What we see as lost, hopeless, beyond repair, may quite honestly be the perfect ingredients for God to create a work of art with your life. We often can’t see this with our natural eyes. We have to trust Jesus and use our eyes of faith. He created the entire universe including us. Despite our flaws, imperfections, failures, and mistakes, He can and will make something beautiful if we allow it.

Here are the lyrics and link to “Canvas and Clay.” 

In my mother’s womb

You formed me with Your hands

Known and loved by You

Before I took a breath

When I doubt it, Lord, remind me

I’m wonderfully made

You’re an artist and a potter

I’m the canvas and the clay

You make all things work together

For my future and for my good

You make all things work together

For Your glory and for Your name

There’s a healing light

Just beyond the clouds

Though I’ve walked through fire

I see clearly now

I know nothing has been wasted

No failure or mistake

You’re an artist and a potter

I’m the canvas and the clay

You make all things work together

For my future and for my good

You make all things work together

For Your glory and for Your name

You make all things work together

For my future and for my good

You make all things work together

For Your glory and for Your name

You’re not finished with me

You’re not finished with me, yeah

You’re not finished with me

You’re not finished with me, yeah

When I doubt it, Lord, remind me

I’m wonderfully made

You’re an artist and a potter

I’m the canvas and the clay

And I know nothing has been wasted

No failure or mistake

You’re an artist and a potter

I’m the canvas and the clay

You make all things work together

For my future and for my good

You make all things work together

For Your glory and for Your name

When I doubt it, Lord, remind me

I’m wonderfully made

You’re an artist and a potter

I’m the canvas and the clay

And I know nothing has been wasted

No failure or mistake

You’re an artist and a potter

I’m the canvas and the clay

You’re an artist and a potter

I’m the canvas and the clay

You’re an artist and a potter

I’m the canvas and the clay

Your friend,

Tiffany 

The Sun Will Rise

Okay so this evening was a little rough. My husband had to work late and it usually takes two of us to brush Landon’s teeth. Even with a sensory toothbrush, strawberry flavored toothpaste and the assurance that we will be “all done” with brushing his teeth as quickly as we can, it involves a huge fight  on Landon’s part with limbs flailing, him yelling, crying and basically acting like we are trying to brutally murder him. 

Usually Murry and I obtain bites, scratches and bruises in the process. Even though we have brushed his teeth everyday for probably the last seven years, every day we get the same reaction from Landon. 

Autism. 

This is just one tiny facet of what it means for your child to have severe autism. Well, today Murry had to work late so I had to complete this lovely teeth brushing task on my own. (Yes, I have considered never brushing his teeth and basically letting his teeth rot out. And this is coming from a person who has never had a cavity. So yeah, autism can affect you on levels you never really dreamed of….)

Anyway, I don’t know what it was about tonight. But as I was attempting to hold my 63 pound son down in order to brush his teeth, I realized he really did not understand why I was brushing his teeth. He does not understand the fact that he already has cavities and I’m trying to avoid him having to go to the operating room, have him put under general anesthesia just to get cavities filled. He’s thinking “Mama is just torturing me and she knows I hate this because of my sensory system being in overdrive and yet, she still does this every single day.”

I don’t know what it was about tonight. Usually I hold the emotions in check, but as I was holding him after I finished brushing his teeth, while he was still screaming and fighting me, my own tears started. I realized looking into his confused eyes, that he has no idea why we brush his teeth. Will he ever understand? Will he ever be able to realize we are doing this because we love him and want to take care of him no matter how much he hates us, bruises us, bites us?

Psalm 56:8

You keep track of all my sorrows.

    You have collected all my tears in your bottle.

    You have recorded each one in your book.

Are we ever that way with our Heavenly Father? Do we fight Him and say “how can you do this to me” while only viewing our situation from our own limited understanding and perspective? Do we ask God how He can allow a health problem or relationship problem or financial problem in our life? Do we ask God why He’s letting all these negative circumstances happen to us? Do we ask what we did to deserve this and is it fair? Do we treat God the way Landon treats us when we brush his teeth? 

Sometimes God calms the storm, sometimes He calms us. He wants us to have a bigger perspective than just our own.  We have to trust Him that he is going to work ALL things for good to those who love Him and are called according to His purpose. Romans 8:28

I once read a quote that said “Just because the story has a happy ending doesn’t mean you can’t cry during the sad parts.” 

Well, I had a sad part tonight. But after my tears, I had to stop and look toward the future…the future of Landon’s healing, the future of our eternity in Heaven, the future of a perfect life with Jesus.

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I know that tonight was just a moment in time. (I am not minimizing the fact that it is very overwhelming and draining to say the least of being an autism parent.) But in the morning the sun will rise and Landon will jump in my lap and give me kisses. And I’ll cherish that moment. I’ll hold it in my heart and I will smile. And it will be a glimpse of the way it will be all the time in Heaven. And then we won’t even remember the tears.

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Your friend,

Tiffany

It’s Always Been You

Just wanted to share this amazing song that I heard on Pandora today. No matter what we are facing, Jesus is the one who has always been there. Sometimes I have to constantly remind myself of this truth. Today this song did a fabulous job of reminding me. ❤️🙌🏻🙏 It’s a powerful song.

You saw me first
You let me in when I was at my worst
The moment when I heard You say my name
It’s the first time in so long I’m not afraid
I’m not afraidYou are the voice that calms the storm inside me
Castle walls that stand around me
All this time, my guardian was You
You are the light that shines in every tunnel
There in the past, You’ll be there tomorrow
All my life, Your love was breaking throughIt’s always been You
It’s always been YouMy northern star
Your love will be the compass of my heart
Oh, I just wanna be right where You are
Right where You areYou are the voice that calms the storm inside me
Castle walls that stand around me
All this time, my guardian was You
You are the light that shines in every tunnel
There in the past, You’ll be there tomorrow
All my life, Your love was breaking throughIt’s always been You
And it’s always been You
It’s always been You
It’s always been YouWho stood with me in the fire?
It was You, it was always You
Who pulled me out of the water?
It was You, it was always You
And who carried me on their shoulders?
It was You, I know it’s You, YouYou are the voice that calms the storm inside me
Castle walls that stand around me
All this time, my guardian was You
You are the light that shines in every tunnel
There in the past, You’ll be there tomorrow
All my life, Your love was breaking throughIt’s always been You
And it’s always been You
It’s always been You
It’s always been You
It’s always been You


Your friend,

Tiffany

Self-Talk: Positive or Negative

My mom and I were having a conversation yesterday about a sermon she had heard recently. In the sermon, the pastor was speaking about how we treat others and ourselves. He mentioned that we should learn to treat ourselves with gentleness and humility before we can extend gentleness and humility to others.  That conversation reminded me of the following devotion I’d read a couple of weeks ago from Speaking Life (YouVersion Bible App)Just wanted to share because it’s such good truth. 💕💕

Self-Talk 

The loudest voice we hear is our own voice. The voice inside of us…our self-talk. So quiet, but so powerful. Self-talk is a real deal. Self-talk is something we do naturally throughout our waking hours. It is a form of neuro-linguistic programming. Because of its repetitive nature, it has the potential to mold and sculpt our consciousness.

Our enemy is a destroyer. He likes to bring lies in from early childhood and then convince us that these false beliefs are really our truth. The only thing true about us is what God, the Knitter, Knower, Designer, Creator, says about us. Can we differentiate these two voices? One brings life and the other brings death, usually a slow burdensome death. 

We have discussed that our thoughts bubble out into our words. Then we hear our “self” speak about our “self.” What we speak often becomes our reality. If we think/say that we are dumb, stupid or fat we likely live a life behaving exactly as we speak. What if we agreed with our Creator and called ourselves fearfully and wonderfully made? A masterpiece? A daughter of the King? Would we live differently? When we think differently, we live differently. Changing the way you think changes your perspective which changes what you say and how you act in the world.

Positive self-talk: People are becoming more aware that positive self-talk is a powerful tool for increasing our self-confidence and curbing negative emotions. It is a phenomenal strategy for change. Positive words are good for our health as they help boost our confidence, improve our mood, eliminate stress and improve heart health and well-being. People who can master positive self-talk are thought to be more confident, motivated, and productive. God created us for life and life abundantly. Does your self-talk align with His plan and Words over you?

Negative self-talk: We are also becoming aware of the effects of our inner critic, our negative self-talk. Negative self-talk can influence your self-esteem, your outlook on life, your energy levels, your relationships, and even your health. By taking note of negative self-talk, we can begin the necessary process of interrupting this destructive habit. It’s time to silence that negative voice in our head and speak life and truth into our lives.

Our self-talk matters. Pay attention. More often than not, it is so routine to speak negatively about yourself and to yourself that you are completely unaware that you are doing it. I wonder if, for the next twenty-four hours, you would take the time to pay attention to your thoughts and also take notice of how you speak about yourself? Make a commitment to eliminate negative self-talk. Then align your thoughts and words with His power-filled truths.

Ponder:

In what ways can you align your self-talk with what God says about you? Are you kind to yourself? Do you know and speak out your identity in Christ?

Prayer:

Lord help me believe that I am who you say that I am. Help Your voice be the loudest voice in my life. Let me speak Your heart into my heart.