What is the hardest thing about dealing with an ongoing dilemma that you have no answers for? Is it really not knowing the answer to the problem? Is it not seeing how to get past the storm back into the sunshiny, happy times of life? Or is it feeling alone as you face the problem?
I ponder all of these things sometimes. Having no answers is hard. Not seeing an end in sight is really hard. But the more I think about these things, I realize that to me, feeling alone is probably the worst thing of all. It magnifies the problem. As long as you know you aren’t alone and someone has experienced what you are going through, or they’re experiencing it with you, it makes it bearable. Does it take the problem away? No. But someone sharing the load is a wonderful thing. It is freeing. Having friends or family share that burden with you as you face a difficult situation strengthens you to see you through the storm.
The other day I was praying and I said “God, I really don’t know how I could ever encourage anyone else whose child has autism because I don’t have answers myself. I wouldn’t know what to tell them or how to help them.”
Instantly it seemed like God was saying “You don’t have to have the answers. You just need to let them know that they are not alone and that you know what they are going through.”
I can do that! That is actually why I started this blog. I really want anyone who may be reading this and facing something hard in life to know that you aren’t alone. Please be comforted in knowing God is with you in your storm and there are most definitely others who can relate to whatever it is you are facing! I can empathize with hard times for sure. I understand what it is to face some ongoing health problems. I know what it means to have a special needs child in addition to typically developing children. I may not know you well or have faced exactly what you are going through, but whatever the case, you are not alone! God is with you and I pray that He’ll bring people into your life to encourage and help you! May you always know “you’ve got a friend”.
I am so thankful for the family members and friends who provide help and encouragement to me along the way. They are truly the hands and feet of God to me. I am thankful ALWAYS for their love.
Ecclesiastes 4:9-10 New International Version (NIV)
9 Two are better than one, because they have a good return for their labor:
10 If either of them falls down, one can help the other up.
But pity anyone who falls and has no one to help them up.
17 A friend loves at all times, and a brother is born for a time of adversity.
PS. You may not be a James Taylor fan, but the words to this song are really good.
“You’ve Got A Friend”